To answer this question one must ask "What does ‘have it all' really mean?"
Sure - all women CAN CHOOSE to be a wife, mother and career woman or even a boss simultaneously.
No one is saying they can't.
Being an ex-wife, mum and boss I have to wonder…
Does doing all of that simultaneously bring me the MOST joy?
Isn’t joy the ideal aim of “having it all”?
I know myself; there is no way known - no way possible for me at least - to have an amazing, truly connected, stable and loving marriage for endless years whilst I work my ass off to build a company for endless years to great heights of soaring success plus be Mother of The Year at every bake off sale at school and have űber connected relationships with all my children all the time.
I am a Type A Over Achiever and have hired professionals to mentor in every area of my life so I can do “it all” better.
Literally - every area of life - and it has cost me a small fortune.
After years of trying to do “IT ALL” BETTER what I learned is that by letting IT ALL go - I do what matters; better.
In short I found by not STRIVING to have “it all” I somehow found a harmonious balance of all of it that felt pretty darn close to “having it all” - to me anyway.
I work 4 days a week now - maximum - and am okay with winding back my business to do that. Its less money but it's more time for my kids, for myself, and eventually for my next relationship.
Anyone can have a bit of “it all” - sure.
When you look at the old adages of "where focus goes, energy flows" or "what you focus on you will get" - the area you focus most on yields the best result.
As a reformed serial entrepreneur, someone said something to me many years back which I took a long time to take on board and assimilate:
"You get only the potential result out of the potential focus you put in"
Ergo - if you put in 25 - 35% focus over 3 different areas; striving to achieve hugely amazing results in each area simultaneously, you will not.
You simply will not achieve 100% of the potential outcome in EACH area simultaneously… because you are not putting in 100% of the potentoal focus in order to create that complete result.
You will achieve - at most - 25 - 35% of the possible outcome.
Input (focus) = output (outcome). Sinple.
Can women have it all?
… but then again NO ONE can have 100% of everything....
... we women can and do give it a red hot go and that's for sure and certain!
So again… like everything - it all depends how you look at it...