This means that I have been prone (formerly on many occasions!) to lose my temper.
I am a verbalist. An over-communicator.
So for me, a loss of temper means that I yell, I swear, I curse and I can engage in pretty forthright psychological warfare to get my way. Itâs not very attractive and certainly not classy behaviour. Hence the reason for this post :-)
Underlying anger issues aside, which I believe should be worked through via therapy and self-awareness inducing activities like journaling, meditation and the like, I am a big believer in that tempers can be softened through nutrition.
Take this little anecdote as an example;
My now two year old daughter is a lot like me â sheâs a very feisty, forthright personality who likes to assert herself and her demands in no uncertain terms. Every so often, she may be going through a growth phase, teething or just have not slept and she will have a shocking day. Her tantrums are spectacular and can be heard at the end of our street! Yes, itâs pretty normal kiddie behaviour.
After several days of these tantrums when she was about 20 months old, I took her to our favourite children specialist â our Kinesiologist Chiropractor. It was out of character for my little Cherub to be so uptight all the time so I knew something wasnât right for her. Our practitioner muscle tested Missy and worked out that she was in dire need of MAGNESIUM and VITAMIN B6.
The next day, the tanties started again. I put the required drops of the above vitamin and mineral supplements into her milk and gave it to her, mid-cry. She took a giant swig and immediately started to calm down. She then stopped the tanties altogether â she was as meek and mild as the sweet little Cherub that she is.
It got me to thinking â if that works for her, could it work for me? And what are MY needs?
I decided, that no matter how much pressure I was feeling, there was no excuse for temper tantrums from an adult. I decided it was time to take responsibility for this aspect of my personality.
What did I do? How is my temper now? Read onâ¦
Eco Mumâs Temper Busting Regime
1. Stinging Nettle Infusion â 1 litre per day
I know I keep harping on about this one but honestly, it will change your life. I make two litres every night now and drink most (if not all) of it throughout the following day.
Itâs a REAL food source of nearly every vitamin and mineral we need, in concentrated and easily absorbable form. That means any possible imbalances in my nutritional needs are met and rectified using REAL food. It also means that excesses are removed naturally without fear of toxicity â that is the beauty of real food vitamins.
This one thing, in and of itself is enough to balance my mood, reduce stress levels and enable me to cope with more.
My energy levels are higher, I have an elevated mood, my body feels more alert and balanced. Itâs the mainstay of my self-induced âEmotional Management Planâ (like that one? Hee hee)
2. Additional Supplementation â Magnesium
When I was stressed out, as a Type A personality Work at Home Mum, my nerves were often frayed and I often felt frazzled, tired and would wake up cranky. Before the day began I was itching for a fight and usually, because of my wake up attitude, I would find one.
I started to supplement with Magnesium initially to combat severe stress during the come-down period of medication I had been taking. It worked beautifully for that purpose.
I notice most when I DO NOT take my magnesium. My muscles are tighter, I get headaches, my neck and shoulders hurt and I donât sleep as well. My hair-trigger temper flares worse than normal and I am more impassioned and emotional about things which upset me.
So how does all of this add up to help with STOP losing my temper?
Take this morning, as the best example I can bring to mind. I woke today in a foul mood. I hadnât slept all that well, had snoozed the alarm 3 times and just was not feeling like I was in a good space at all.
I had my shower and started preparing breakfast for all of us. Still cranky. Biting my tongue off almost to stop myself being grumpy at Eco Dad and Bubs.
Finally get to take my vitamins after nailing my first BIG glass of Nettle. Within 20 minutes I was feeling calmer, starting to unravel my tensed up stomach. Minutes earlier EVERYTHING was bugging me, I was grinding my teeth and snappy. Shortly after taking my daily dose of natural âHappy Pillsâ I no longer felt cranky, tense, edgy or grumpy. It all went away and I had a great day exhibiting much more patience, tenderness and understanding with my rambunctious two year old than I have before.
In short â this works for me. I am a better Mum because of it, my body responds well to it and my husband is loving the softer, gentler me since I started sticking to this regime. All round success from my point of view; being a better Mum, wife and person â it gets my vote for the long term, thanks!
Love and calmness,
The Eco Mum xo
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Whilst watching a wonderful documentary, I learned that the founder of Alcoholics Anonymous, Bill Williams was told to take 5000mg of Vitamin B3 every day to combat his depression. I thought âIt worked for him â surely it will for me too!â
So under the watchful eye of my Healthcare practitioner (and myself as I am a student of Naturopathy) I started taking megadoses of Vitamin B3. To work out how much I needed I was told to take enough each day until I felt calmer, lighter and more relaxed or until ANY side effects became apparent. For me thatâs about 2000mg two to three times per day to feel relaxed and calm. For Eco Dad, thatâs 4000mg twice per day. Neither of us felt ANY side effects â we took niacinamide (not nicotinic acid).
Vitamin B3 is used within so many systems and organs of the body but one of the main areas, pertaining to emotional response is the adrenal glands. Vitamin B3 is used by the adrenals to produce sex hormones as well as stress hormones. These regulate just about every function of the human body including fight / flight responses (aka losing your temper in times of stress).
4. Additional Supplementation â Emergency Essence
This one probably goes without saying however I will mention this â when I am on the verge of an anxiety attack (rare these days because Stinging Nettle is SUCH a great adrenal tonic) this will bring me back into a calm state of mind.
A great one for tantrums in kids too! Gentle, safe, effective and natural.
You can buy from all good health food stores â be sure to get the ACTUAL Australian Bush Flower Essences brand. Itâs the best for us Aussies J
5. Additional Supplementation â B Complex
To ensure a consistent and stable amount of energy throughout my whole day, I take a practitioner strength B complex vitamin, designed specifically for stress and energy levels for women.
Donât bother with crappy over the counter brands â go straight to your Naturopath or other qualified practitioner and have the appropriate tests run to see if this is what you need too.